Accepting Feelings, Embracing Conflicts
Abstract
The lack of emotional understanding and limited expressive language and social skills of young children often cause conflicts with their peers. Teachers play a significant role in modeling and teaching children appropriate social and emotional skills. Drawing on multiple theories, frameworks, and evidence-based programs, a Conflict-Solving Model was developed with specific guidelines and step-by-step instructions to support early childhood teachers in systematically handing children’s social conflicts and teaching children emotional understanding and communication strategies. This model consists of six steps: (1) identify the role of children (initiators or responders), (2) recognize the intentions of initiators or identify the emotions of responders, (3) say “No” to children if aggressive behaviors displayed, (4) identify the emotions of others, (5) teach conflict-solving skills, and (6) explain the reality and teach alternatives. This model not only enhances teachers’ confidence and skills in handling conflicts but also promotes children’s social and emotional development.